I’ve been reflecting on friendship a great deal this year: The absence of friendship, lessons learned from misaligned friendships, how to build community, and how to break old cycles so that I can have the intimate relationships I desire and deserve.
I completely relate to so much of this. When I was in high school I moved around a lot so I grew a tolerance for being with myself. At one school in particular I was ostracized from a friend group for reasons I still don’t know to this day (although I was the only black kid in the school which may have had something subconsciously to do with it). So I decided to take to the library on my lunches rather than placate to false friends. I have a few friends these days in my adulthood and it has taken deep soul searching and raw honesty to decide who is aligned and who isn’t. This piece can go a long way in helping those of us on the journey to creating and sustaining true friendships on the path 💚
Hey, thanks so much for sharing your thoughts and journey. I can very much relate to your story as well...I moved around a lot throughout my childhood and adulthood, and I went to 3 different high schools. I have been ostracized at different points as well, and at one point I kept to myself. It has taken some deep soul searching for me to figure out who is aligned with me, and I've been doing more of that intentional work this year, especially as I am often solitary and have blank canvass in terms of friendship. I appreciate your kind words on the value of this piece. I'd like to write more about this in the future as I move along my path 💜
I completely relate to so much of this. When I was in high school I moved around a lot so I grew a tolerance for being with myself. At one school in particular I was ostracized from a friend group for reasons I still don’t know to this day (although I was the only black kid in the school which may have had something subconsciously to do with it). So I decided to take to the library on my lunches rather than placate to false friends. I have a few friends these days in my adulthood and it has taken deep soul searching and raw honesty to decide who is aligned and who isn’t. This piece can go a long way in helping those of us on the journey to creating and sustaining true friendships on the path 💚
Hey, thanks so much for sharing your thoughts and journey. I can very much relate to your story as well...I moved around a lot throughout my childhood and adulthood, and I went to 3 different high schools. I have been ostracized at different points as well, and at one point I kept to myself. It has taken some deep soul searching for me to figure out who is aligned with me, and I've been doing more of that intentional work this year, especially as I am often solitary and have blank canvass in terms of friendship. I appreciate your kind words on the value of this piece. I'd like to write more about this in the future as I move along my path 💜