The Living Nightmare of Relaxers on a Black Woman. This is an excerpt from the 2nd chapter of my memoir, Loving Her Reflection. The name of this chapter is “Losing Ground”.
Soooo, I cut my locs off back in June. Still kind of regretting it bcuz the girls would have been so long by now. Anyways, I permed my hair after because I wanted finger waves. My hair has grown so much and I forgot how "nappy" my hair is. My hair is growing and I keep them in braids until I can chop off the permed ends. I think I'm gonna go for micro locs next time. They are super high maintanence and I like neater locs.
My daughter has beautiful healthy hair, but its hard for me to manage her 4(z) texture. I will not relax it, but it requires a lot of love and patience on wash day. when I take out her hair, i have her look in the mirror and say affirmations. I want her to feel and know she is beautiful always even when her hair is not "done."
Hi Khadijah, thank you for sharing your journey. 🤎 I'm so happy to hear how you affirm your daughter.
I understand that afro-textured hair requires a lot of love and patience. I think we are worth it, and this is how our hair can offer a space to practice self love.
I hear a lot about loc-cutting regret. I guess it just depends on the relationship each person had with their locs and why they cut them.
Finger waves are possible on short, natural 4c hair-no perm necessary. I'm sure you look beautiful no matter your hairstyle, but I am glad you are going back to wearing natural hair.
Soooo, I cut my locs off back in June. Still kind of regretting it bcuz the girls would have been so long by now. Anyways, I permed my hair after because I wanted finger waves. My hair has grown so much and I forgot how "nappy" my hair is. My hair is growing and I keep them in braids until I can chop off the permed ends. I think I'm gonna go for micro locs next time. They are super high maintanence and I like neater locs.
My daughter has beautiful healthy hair, but its hard for me to manage her 4(z) texture. I will not relax it, but it requires a lot of love and patience on wash day. when I take out her hair, i have her look in the mirror and say affirmations. I want her to feel and know she is beautiful always even when her hair is not "done."
Hi Khadijah, thank you for sharing your journey. 🤎 I'm so happy to hear how you affirm your daughter.
I understand that afro-textured hair requires a lot of love and patience. I think we are worth it, and this is how our hair can offer a space to practice self love.
I hear a lot about loc-cutting regret. I guess it just depends on the relationship each person had with their locs and why they cut them.
Finger waves are possible on short, natural 4c hair-no perm necessary. I'm sure you look beautiful no matter your hairstyle, but I am glad you are going back to wearing natural hair.