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I am so glad that you haven't given up and instead continue on Substack. It is so cruel and horrible and female-hating and racist how Instagram treated you, tried to erase you and take away your work. I wish there was justice. But Substack does seem a wonderful way to continue. I have two blogs on Wordpress, including almost the entire book I co-wrote, but it's terrifying to know what they have done to other women that they could do to us at any time.

A dear friend who uses the name Gallus Mag did an incredible blog at Wordpress for about 8 years, called GenderTrender. She was one of the first who courageously wrote against the trans cult, in spite of the death threats they sent her and are still sending. Then, one white man, who had sued immigrant Women of Color for saying no to waxing his testicles in a women's salon, also went after Gallus and got her work of so many years shut down. No warning, so she lost it all. No record of those years, her work, and the many women who wrote in and commented. I think she has quit and it's a huge loss for us all, as is your work being removed.

But you're continuing! It was Eva Kurilova who told me about Substack and interviewed me to counter the disgusting slander that the man who has stalked me since I was 17 got printed by another man posing as a Lesbian (or bisexual, when it suits them) in what used to be a Lesbian journal, Sinister Wisdom. Eva was so kind and wonderful to work with, and it was a relief that that man (who is openly racist and also preys on young women) did not get final say in his nasty lies about me, though SW will not print my response there of course.

I really should put all my work on Substack but everything seems so overwhelming so I haven't. But it's wonderful to know you are there and not stopped, and other women will be writing there too!

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Thank you so much for your words of support, Bev. I'd love to see your work on here! You can take your time, there will always be a space for you. 🌺

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Thank you so much! I love to see you work continuing. I'm trying to not lose strength by going into nature to see wildlife and wildflowers and then take photos (posting on facebook), but that takes away from my writing. Our books has been updated at my first blog though and all is still valid to share.

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I can completely relate to this. I was permanently banned on LinkedIn for addressing systemic racism and sexism in the workplace and lost 20K connections. I had not been on Facebook because prior to my daily publication, I saw no need for it. So, I’m at 400 and building from zero. The platform is still owned by white males who actively promote neo-Nazis on their podcasts, but I decided to stay regardless, because my story matters, just like yours. So glad you are here and honored to be a subscriber. 🙏

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Wow! Yeah, Linkedin is definitely stiff corporate button-up vibes. I'm sorry to hear that this happened, and I definitely feel like their approach mirrors how black women are treated in most corporate workplaces.

You're right, and you make a good point. I am disconnected from what Substack (as a brand) promotes because I never see myself reflected in who they promote.

I do feel safe in the sense that I trust my work will not be torn down for talking about systemic racism, gender-critical issues, or the like...and I don't feel a threat of being harassed by those who disagree with me, even if my neighbors are neo-nazis. From what I have seen, everyone pretty much stays in their own lane here and caters to their own audience.

On that note, end game for me is to build here and then to go completely independent by creating my own platform. I don't expect any platform to stay or feel the same forever, including Substack. But, I think this platform is a great tool for now.

I'm so glad you're here too! Thank you so much for subscribing and sharing your story with me 🌺

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Yes, I definitely feel safer here than anywhere else, so that’s an improvement. And if anything, I have much greater awareness around how quickly your data can disappear and to protect it. So now, everything is in the cloud and like you, I also want to build my own web site and be independent. Good luck!

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Yes, likewise, me too. Let me back up my subscriber list again 😁 Excited for you and your journey. Best Wishes 🌺

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May 3·edited May 3Author

Wow, Chandra. I am looking at the conversations going on here and it's all very eye-opening. I will be honest that the little warning you gave in your first comment, on Substack not being as safe as it might seem, has been slightly haunting me.

And now I can see some of these dynamics playing out. This is like the wild wild west.

Our lived experiences with racism and misogyny, the pain and bloodshed we and our ancestors have survived, are reduced to theoretical constructs and debatable concepts, picked apart, and re-framed as mere foolishness.

This is nothing new. And it is not unique to Substack-but this platform offers a space where it's encouraged outside of the usual confines of liberal thought and academia.

On the other hand, it is very interesting that someone like me, can attract people who I fundamentally disagree with on other issues that deeply affect my life, simply because we all agree about gender ideology. We're really not all in the same boat.

I am clear though, that black women are centered here, and that is not just skin-deep. I anticipate some pushback on that. But a little resistance will be necessary for me to cultivate my ideal space and audience as I grow.

Just observing, for now...

And in the meantime, I could not help but write a note about it...

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I am glad you've clarified black women will be centered here, though would I probably feel more comfortable to hear it was just women in general. I've visited the USA 5x and on those occasions met women who describe themselves as black amerikan but other than those brief visits I don't know personally any women who call themselves black in my local community (though some have ethnic backgrounds and skin colouring different from mine) so I fear my ability to understand what the significant differences might be are limited. The history of your country is very different from mine. I am here to listen and discuss and look forward to it

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I am here for the debate and hope it will be balanced and respectful. I am many things anti racist BiPOC are judgemental of, mainly white skinned and I believe that the societies and cultures which grew based on principles my Enlightment ancestors postulated aren't totally pernicious.

I also live in Australia & in a tiny rural village, so I have unique perspectives on American culture and values.

Over 7 years I have suffered a great deal of social media cancellation. Been kicked off Patreon. Instagram and Pinterest. It started with being accused I was a racist cultural appropriator because of defending using the word kimono. As an artist I have been kicked out of international arts organisations, denied memberships and blocked from following 100s due to "incompatible values". Even on Substack I have occasionally had comments removed because my opinions are regarded too provocative. I regularly get denigrated as a racist because of questioning cultural appropriation along with being called a bigoted transphobe because I don't believe men can turn into women. Interestingly I, and numerous other women, were recently labelled "nazis" for attending a women's rights rally by the local mainstream media and the shadow Premier of the Australian state of Queensland.

Considering Chandras strongly expressed feelings I hope N3VLYNN will be a strong and fair ejudicator of discussion going into the future!

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May 2·edited May 3Liked by N3VLYNNN

Antiracists are not judgmental of whiteness; we're judgmental of racism and that distinction is significant. I will never forget that it was a white "men's rights advocate" from Australia who defamed, harassed, stalked and threatened me and my family at my work email with my boss copied based on my posts about incel and misogynistic violence as the daughter of a murdered woman. Based on recent news, it appears that Australia has a huge problem with that, including at the parliamentary level. No, I am not particularly hopeful for women anywhere on the globe, but certainly not in Australia where systemic racism and sexism are evidently alive and well. Clearly a sharp contrast to Scandinavia. Here, right wingers they are attempting to take women back to 1864.

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Chandra I'm dismayed to hear you've had such an awful and negative experience from an Australian man.

Your observations that Australian women are in a dire situation with the advance of transsexual ideology here is entirely correct. But women are mobilising and we are pushing back strongly.

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Pearl - You shouldn't be "dismayed" about global misogyny as a woman of an advanced age. It exists in every country and is particularly prevelant in yours, even from the standpoint of a foreigner following the headlines. Your willful misinterpretation of my words will not fly here. I referred exclusively to biological male "men's rights advocates" and other misogynists like the one who murdered my mother. I said absolutely nothing about "transsexual ideology" and I'm not here to discuss that. Trans women don't murder biological women; biological males do, both with their own hands and via legislation since they hold the most economic and political power globally. Data and statistics about who perpetrates violence against women (both biological and trans) still matters. Do not ever distract from or twist the words of the families of murdered women to serve your personal anti-trans agenda; I'm not here for that. Are we clear on who I am now? The daughter of a victim of FEMICIDE perpetrated by a BIOLOGICAL MALE which is why they threaten me with rape and murder online for addressing it. They are sadists like Alex Jones, another white male of the right wing who defamed murdered children and their parents to the tune of a record $1.5B judgment. So, if you want to bring a "balanced and respectful" perspective, do not ever speak for or manipulate the words of the families of homicide victims; let's start there. While you are condemning a gender identity, I'm actually trying to save women's lives from biological males who murder them. See the distinction? We're not on the same page and very likely not even on the same book.

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As a subscriber to two feminist writers on Substack, I’m scarcely aware of anything neo-Nazi and I’m rather pleased that a white male ownership is capable of delivering a much safer, kinder space for women than other platforms, even when the topics and issues are highly-charged and emotive. Of course men have much to answer for, but there is a difference between constructive criticism and unbridled misandry. It’s worth applauding the value of a safe, kind platform that serves all of us, including men trying to unpack years of social and sexual conditioning, seeking to respond positively to feminist thinking. It is so much more productive for real societal progress than an echo chamber in a myopic social media silo.

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May 1·edited May 1Liked by N3VLYNNN

Fuck off. There was a neo-Nazi campaign late last year and you can see how long I've been on this platform. There is no such thing as reverse sexism (or racism) with the global patriarchy and a racial caste system. I am the mother of white sons whom I raised to be the antithesis of someone who would respond with such a profound lack of empathy toward women, including women of color who have it the hardest, in this woman-hating era. Need I mention that I am the daughter of a woman tortured and murdered in her own home? The perpetrator of course a male because there was almost a 0% chance that it would have been a woman. Her killer goes to trial next month. Males commit the vast majority of violence in the world, including rape, murder and wars in which innocent women and children die. So, I’ll reiterate: fuck off until you are addressing systemic racism and sexism online that garner rape and death threats. All of that lifetime affirmative action in the form of gender and race and gender privilege produces such arrogance, grandiosity and mediocrity in white males, in particular. Males are 93% of world leaders and are driving it into the ground, as we can see from the headlines. But go ahead and vote yet another old white male in November whom you think represents your misogynistic interests. I will very likely never see a woman president in my lifetime. Misandry? No, misogyny took my mother. I give zero fucks about the opinions of racist and sexist white males who hold little credibility in this era, particularly the ultra wealthy ones. Your being subscribed to feminist authors is inconsequential to me when males who have daughters rape them. Pathetic that you would use that as some kind of get-out-jail-free card for your obvious misogyny and racism. The platforming and active promotion of Neo-Nazis on Substack podcasts is also representative of a lack of accountability. White male supremacy is the greatest domestic terrorist threat tracked by DHS, DOJ and the FBI. Chris Best and Hamish McKenzie, wealthy white male tech CEO’s are profoundly irresponsible and they are far from the only ones. Finally, fuck off.

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I feel you, Chandra. I'm so sorry to hear about your Mom 💜 I also cringe at comments about misandry or reverse racism.

There is a lack of empathy from from most men and also white folks on these issues-even amongst the minority who intellectually agree with us on certain key issues. That intellectualism sadly does not translate into humanity--which is what we really need in order to heal as a society. Empathy is very humanizing.

I recognize that there are a lot of people who follow me who may not agree with some of my views on racism, or even some of my views on misogyny. I am writing an article now on white feminism and I am prepared to make some people angry.

There is a lot of gaslighting and we receive it double-time but we have to keep sharing our voices and experiences. Thank you. 🙏🏾

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You keep writing also. Our stories save lives. Be well and stay safe. 🙏

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That’s me told! I agree with much of what you say. That’s why I’m here. We are not at war. War is an expression of failure.

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I have to remark on your equanimity in the way you responded to Chandras outburst so graciously. Respect.

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Pearl: You tried to manipulate my intent for being here. It is noted that neither you or Nick offered condolences on my mother, murdered by a man while the author of the thread was able to express empathy. That was the only appropriate, humane and respectful thing for you two white people to do and you both failed at being human. It’s more of the same dark pathology that we see from white people of the right wing (ala Alex Jones) in this country. It makes sense then that you heap praise onto perpetrators over female victims of violence. You are definitely no ally to the families of homicide victims or women, a false claim you made in a separate comment to me. You definitely remind me of a white woman Alex Jones. Heck, maybe even the puppy murderer, Kristi Noem. Watch the documentary on Alex Jones. Muhammad Ali was not wrong about “white devils.”

https://youtu.be/rnLmKoHPGm0?si=eqKBCJjXP0sSREYn

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I will not engage with your demands. You are a bully. I'm not here to give you therapy or to assuage your personal pain. I suggest getting your obvious needs met in more appropriate places.

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IMHO Ms. Hardy has some anger issues. 😒

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May 2·edited May 2Liked by N3VLYNNN

Why do males play imposter psychologists for women they've never met and whose lived experience doesn't at all match their own? Let me clue you in: women whose mothers were tortured and murdered by males give zero fucks about what males think of us based on the violence you perpetrate in the world, including the words you try to punish us with. Again, it’s the lifetime of affirmative action in the form of gender and race privilege that breeds all mediocrity and no meritocracy. The delusion on your part is that your opinions of me matter; they do not. You are a strange male on the internet attempting to defame the families of the murdered. Get in line with Alex Jones; he's clearly the demographic with the anger issues.

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So glad your name appeared in my notifications. Thank you for this!

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Likewise! So happy to welcome you as a reader. I look forward to reading your work too. Thank you for your support. 🌺

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May 5Liked by N3VLYNNN

like many of your works, this post has really resonated with me. When you talk about being an individual who doesn’t fit into a lot of boxes in society. It’s easy to feel lonely and misunderstood and your gifts are not wanted. But I find that that’s how you find your true tribe and it’s a feeling that I felt for a long time as well and I’m still dealing with to this day. And that’s how I found you on YouTube (years ago) and through your social media and Post. I’ve been able to build kind of this invisible community and connection with you although it’s hard to do something like that through the Internet and when you’re not able to connect in depth all the time, but I’m glad that you continue to spread your light through your words and your projects because I truly believe that’s how you find love and community and connect with others. There’s space for all of us!

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Hi Jamila, I am so grateful to have you along this journey with me. I also feel a kindred-spiritedness with you and some other women who resonate with me as I walk my path. I am glad you can relate to this and I remember some moments where you have mentioned following your heart as an Artist and how we have to pull through even when we are discouraged. At the core of that is really about being true to ourselves. I also believe this is the way we find true love and connection. Yes, there is space for all of us! 💛🌺🌱

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May 4Liked by N3VLYNNN

Your writing really speaks to me. I am so glad you’re still here. I made a Substack just to follow you. I got chills when you mentioned reminding yourself about your Pauli Murray piece. I’m not usually one to leave comments, but I just wanted to say thank you 🌸

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Aww thank yew, that means a lot to me. I really appreciate your support, and I am grateful that my words could have such a powerful effect on you.

Sending love & good vibes your way 🌺🙏🏾🌺

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Standing Ovation!

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Thank yew 🌺🙏🏾🌺

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That’s me told! Of course, I agree with almost everything you say. This is why I’m here. We are not at war. War is an expression of failure.

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Such an appropriate article for this piece. The right wing once again attempts to censor a Black woman and survivor of domestic violence in a leadership role. No resignation necessary: https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/article/2024/may/02/kristen-clarke-doj

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Hi Chandra, I have blocked Nick, based on how he responded to my note, so I don't think he will be able to comment here. My blog is not a public forum for white folks/men to center their "debates" on the existence of white supremacy and misogyny--or to gaslight myself and other black women into their degraded view of what empathy should look like.

It's a space for me to write, express myself, and connect with like-minded women who feel nourished by my work.

I am honestly somewhat horrified and saddened to read this thread but it has opened my eyes as to what kinds of people are following me or even claiming themselves as paid supporters. I feel called to write a post to make clear what my space is all about for those who may just be here to consume one aspect of my voice.

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This thread reminded me that there is actually no safe space for women and people of color. I did not mean to hijack your article and I regret that I may have done that. I’m here to learn from those whom I recognize as allies. Again, thank you for sharing your experience. Nothing but respect. 🙏

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