Whewww! I can imagine how exhausting just focusing on this topic for yearsss has been, let alone speaking, debating, and writing about it 😫
Thank you sooo much for all the effort you put in and for every bit of work you saw through to completion! It's so important, timeless, and priceless. No one would have done it like YOU!!
I originally found you through your pole dancing videos on yt (earlyyy in my spiritual journey- like 2012 maybe?!) so I am excited about your other perspectives and the new art you will create!!
Excellent work & Happy ending and new beginnings Nevline 🥰🥳🌱✨
Aww thank yew Ashley. It's honestly been a true calling to write about this subject. I'm so grateful to have reached a place where I can honestly say I have manifested every vision and expressed how I feel about this subject exactly as I dreamed of and more.
Yes there were things I wanted to write about-and I wrote about them. But I also, always wanted to offer a platform to amplify US. The book, accompanying author discussion are the culmination of that, and I raised it to carry resonance and visibility outside of this platform. I agree, nobody would have done it like ME!
I'm so happy you could be part of this too, especially after finding me through my other artistic mediums. Connecting with people who initially found me through my OG platforms always makes me feel extra warm and cozy 🥰
Admittedly I'm relieved because I've been avoiding trans related media for some time now. Not a time I want to look back at and also for very personal reasons. I came back to your Substack because you touch on various significant issues with your content. Taboo matters through a very rich, unique and much needed perspective. One video you posted on YT was particularly impactful for me. It's on a subject I intend on writing about in the future. But this is excellent news, stay evolving 💜
Hey. It was the video you honored your brothers life and spoke of his suicide. I attempted suicide a while back, that was my 2nd time. I'm 38. My family doesn't talk about deep dark stuff which is incredibly challenging when I am fairly comfortable with the uncomfortable. Your video gave me a bit of peace months prior to my attempt, so thank you for that. Attempting suicide isn't a crime and I wish just 1 person in my family really asked me about myself, those uncomfortable questions they expect me to ask. I feel like a walking taboo in different ways 😂 I have to laugh and find my own amusement. I didn't reach out or introduce myself back then because you were also struggling and you were very raw and transparent expressing yourself. I didn't want to inadvertently take from you but I sent you the love I could. I'm happy to find you're thriving today. Hopefully I'm not far behind you 💜
Oh yes, I remember that video. Well, I hope it did not encourage you to make an attempt but yeah I definitely have a more compassionate view on suicide, being a survivor myself and also being survived by my brother.
This is also something I'd like to talk about on my blog, hence the "right to die"-it seems to be an inflammatory subject but I really don't stigmatize suicide in the way society wants us to.
Until we are willing to shed light on the subject and actually hear people out when they want to die (rather than treat them like criminals or nutcases), people are going to keep self-exiting in these painful ways that could be prevented with some compassion and understanding.
It's perfectly understandable why people wouldn't want to be here and we need to stop pretending we don't see that. I am glad you stuck around 💜
Thank you for saying this. So many people assume that those who want to check out do so because they’re not in their right mind, or because they’re lazy and choose to give up. But many people make that choice because they are in their right mind, and they are anything but lazy considering how much some go through before making that call.
Some people’s lives aren’t worth living, some chronic illnesses are too painful to live with, some types of trauma are too painful to heal from, but for some reason some people refuse to accept that. To force people to stay alive no matter what, without regard to their daily needs, is incredibly cruel and selfish. People do not care how much pain a vulnerable person endures daily for years as long as that person is around on holidays. Some people cannot get the support they need, mentally, emotionally or physically, their lives are miserable and painful. Psych wards are horrifically traumatizing and essentially work as punishments. I know I learned my lesson the first time, I won’t seek out that mockery of support again.
Suicide is not the problem, it’s simply the result of the problem, a symptom. If we care so much about people, we need to go deeper than “suicide prevention”, which is a horrible joke. At that point it’s usually too late. Addressing this is not suicidal glorification, but ignoring it does guarantee more suicides. We need to meet people’s needs before they get to that point, and much of that is a societal problem. The way we treat the “yuckies” of society, the unhoused, the mentally ill, the people who struggle to fit in and conform should leave no mystery as to why people choose an out. And none of this addresses how class, sex, race or orientation is intertwined with this discussion. We treat people as disposable and act shocked when they dispose of themselves. We don’t support those who struggle, we just let them fall and shake our heads with disdain when they choose permanent peace over pain.
Whilst working on solutions in our society, I believe some people should still be allowed a dignified out under some circumstances. Yes I know people will try to abuse that system but they’re already abusing the vulnerable to begin with. Death is not the worst thing that can happen to a person at all, and people need an answer that isn’t painful for them, and traumatic for whoever finds them.
As many have said before me, most of us would never put a pet through the pain we force people to endure. If we truly care so much about people the way we claim, we need to remove all judgment as a society, and put our resources where our mouth and noncommittal “suicide prevention” posts are.
Wow, that went completely over my head when I responded earlier...the dialogue around encouraging suicide and how suicidality is purportedly contagious. I think most would agree it's worth investigating. What I don't agree with is the unethical exploitation of people and collection of data to get answers to further oppress said people. The fucking audacity. The overt and covert rape of our human rights. Invasion of our privacy like never before.
So, down the rabbit hole I got fixated, it fueled me toward my choice. Especially when I had no support system at the time, no one to talk with about issues important to me. It didn't help me at the time but I'll be getting back into those waters again. I've had little interest of what's going on in the world since I survived my attempt. This time around I'll be working harder to make sure I have a greater support system. I'm too hot not to fight, and I don't throw fists unless it's for a good cause
Anyway, no... you did not whatsoever encourage me to end my life. Months before my attempt, I stumbled across your video and it gave me pause. Other videos I watched then did too, but yours stood out because it wasn't sanitized. You just were. At that time I couldn't imagine my family grieving me how I saw you grieve your brother, so it made me have second thoughts. I felt seen and comforted by you not just because of that video, but because of who you've shown yourself to be. I feel deeply and for others, too. I have a strong sense of justice similar to my father and for that I've had an interesting life, and I'm proud how I've stood up in life.
But yeah I feel like you already get me at my core where most do not. There's nothing (I remember) I've read/heard/seen from you that isn't cool with/to me. Same page shit. You're a cool person. Sorry for putting you on the spot and risking looking like a creep but tis true.
LOL the end of your message made me LOL 😹 It's all good, I am not creeped out; I hear you completely and I'm really glad my videos could provide comfort and illumination through a dark time. That's the power of authenticity. Even though vulnerability is deeply uncomfortable at times (and that can suck), it reminds me that I never know whose heart I am reaching, even when I'm ugly-face bawling my eyes out on camera lol. You are raising lots of points to consider as I delve into my piece on this subject in the near future! I appreciate you and thank you for sharing. 🌺
I have one indoor/outdoor cat who has a huge territory and hundreds of human (and probably feline) friends. I have two indoor cats who love to dart outdoors. The first cat has a special doorbell to ring when she wants to come indoors. The other two don’t know about the doorbell so I have to just leave the door open for them to get back in. I want to deprive these two cats of a huge territory and thankfully for now they just run under the house.
I'm sick to death of GI. Unfortunately, I have an adult child that got caught up in that cult of nonsense and I have to wait it out to see if she will come to her senses and come home to her family. I would LOVE to just shut the cover on this bad novel....right now!
I’m tired of gender ideology existing. I hear and respect your tiredness of talking about it. I don’t think I will be done talking about it until it crumbles and all my friends realize they’ve been cheering on a devastatingly harmful movement that brutalizes children and destroys women’s rights.
Good! I am happy you got to this place because, yeah… I will keep the rest of that thought to myself, but it’s time. I would have loved for you to run your on space on Clubhouse - especially now that people are earning dough over there - but it would be a hostile environment for you over there. The Black Queers stay unified in large numbers. 🤣 Black Lesbians are staved on these apps for connection, voice, and representation. You know how the machines interfere with attempts to connect.
Wherever you go and share more parts of your genius, you’ll find people who have been waiting to consume it. It feels and is slow. But that’s not because people aren’t looking for it. The reach is intentionally blocked. Still folks are finding ya! It’s time.
Thank you so much 💜 I hear & feel you!! It is a slow burn. Yet I am grateful that you and so many others in my community have found me. I look forward to the next phase of my journey-adding new layers of richness to the pot🌺
I hear you but also hope you don't abandon the 'gender ideology' topic. As a Black woman you have a unique perspective. And as a artist you have your unique talents and experience. One needs to hear more than JK Rowling, so that the debate is not just among privileged white folks. The LGB community needs to assert itself as such, absent extremes of 'wokeness'.
I'm here for it! I also am tired of gender ideology stuff on the whole
Yayyy!!! Relieved to hear I'm not the only one. Thanks for your support 🌺
It certainly gets to a point…
Girl, I'm sayin' tho...
Whewww! I can imagine how exhausting just focusing on this topic for yearsss has been, let alone speaking, debating, and writing about it 😫
Thank you sooo much for all the effort you put in and for every bit of work you saw through to completion! It's so important, timeless, and priceless. No one would have done it like YOU!!
I originally found you through your pole dancing videos on yt (earlyyy in my spiritual journey- like 2012 maybe?!) so I am excited about your other perspectives and the new art you will create!!
Excellent work & Happy ending and new beginnings Nevline 🥰🥳🌱✨
Aww thank yew Ashley. It's honestly been a true calling to write about this subject. I'm so grateful to have reached a place where I can honestly say I have manifested every vision and expressed how I feel about this subject exactly as I dreamed of and more.
Yes there were things I wanted to write about-and I wrote about them. But I also, always wanted to offer a platform to amplify US. The book, accompanying author discussion are the culmination of that, and I raised it to carry resonance and visibility outside of this platform. I agree, nobody would have done it like ME!
I'm so happy you could be part of this too, especially after finding me through my other artistic mediums. Connecting with people who initially found me through my OG platforms always makes me feel extra warm and cozy 🥰
Admittedly I'm relieved because I've been avoiding trans related media for some time now. Not a time I want to look back at and also for very personal reasons. I came back to your Substack because you touch on various significant issues with your content. Taboo matters through a very rich, unique and much needed perspective. One video you posted on YT was particularly impactful for me. It's on a subject I intend on writing about in the future. But this is excellent news, stay evolving 💜
Thank you so much! I'm curious which video I posted that impacted you, or what the topic was about?
Hey. It was the video you honored your brothers life and spoke of his suicide. I attempted suicide a while back, that was my 2nd time. I'm 38. My family doesn't talk about deep dark stuff which is incredibly challenging when I am fairly comfortable with the uncomfortable. Your video gave me a bit of peace months prior to my attempt, so thank you for that. Attempting suicide isn't a crime and I wish just 1 person in my family really asked me about myself, those uncomfortable questions they expect me to ask. I feel like a walking taboo in different ways 😂 I have to laugh and find my own amusement. I didn't reach out or introduce myself back then because you were also struggling and you were very raw and transparent expressing yourself. I didn't want to inadvertently take from you but I sent you the love I could. I'm happy to find you're thriving today. Hopefully I'm not far behind you 💜
Oh yes, I remember that video. Well, I hope it did not encourage you to make an attempt but yeah I definitely have a more compassionate view on suicide, being a survivor myself and also being survived by my brother.
This is also something I'd like to talk about on my blog, hence the "right to die"-it seems to be an inflammatory subject but I really don't stigmatize suicide in the way society wants us to.
Until we are willing to shed light on the subject and actually hear people out when they want to die (rather than treat them like criminals or nutcases), people are going to keep self-exiting in these painful ways that could be prevented with some compassion and understanding.
It's perfectly understandable why people wouldn't want to be here and we need to stop pretending we don't see that. I am glad you stuck around 💜
Thank you for saying this. So many people assume that those who want to check out do so because they’re not in their right mind, or because they’re lazy and choose to give up. But many people make that choice because they are in their right mind, and they are anything but lazy considering how much some go through before making that call.
Some people’s lives aren’t worth living, some chronic illnesses are too painful to live with, some types of trauma are too painful to heal from, but for some reason some people refuse to accept that. To force people to stay alive no matter what, without regard to their daily needs, is incredibly cruel and selfish. People do not care how much pain a vulnerable person endures daily for years as long as that person is around on holidays. Some people cannot get the support they need, mentally, emotionally or physically, their lives are miserable and painful. Psych wards are horrifically traumatizing and essentially work as punishments. I know I learned my lesson the first time, I won’t seek out that mockery of support again.
Suicide is not the problem, it’s simply the result of the problem, a symptom. If we care so much about people, we need to go deeper than “suicide prevention”, which is a horrible joke. At that point it’s usually too late. Addressing this is not suicidal glorification, but ignoring it does guarantee more suicides. We need to meet people’s needs before they get to that point, and much of that is a societal problem. The way we treat the “yuckies” of society, the unhoused, the mentally ill, the people who struggle to fit in and conform should leave no mystery as to why people choose an out. And none of this addresses how class, sex, race or orientation is intertwined with this discussion. We treat people as disposable and act shocked when they dispose of themselves. We don’t support those who struggle, we just let them fall and shake our heads with disdain when they choose permanent peace over pain.
Whilst working on solutions in our society, I believe some people should still be allowed a dignified out under some circumstances. Yes I know people will try to abuse that system but they’re already abusing the vulnerable to begin with. Death is not the worst thing that can happen to a person at all, and people need an answer that isn’t painful for them, and traumatic for whoever finds them.
As many have said before me, most of us would never put a pet through the pain we force people to endure. If we truly care so much about people the way we claim, we need to remove all judgment as a society, and put our resources where our mouth and noncommittal “suicide prevention” posts are.
Thanks again
Thank you! I'm 💯 with you.
Wow, that went completely over my head when I responded earlier...the dialogue around encouraging suicide and how suicidality is purportedly contagious. I think most would agree it's worth investigating. What I don't agree with is the unethical exploitation of people and collection of data to get answers to further oppress said people. The fucking audacity. The overt and covert rape of our human rights. Invasion of our privacy like never before.
So, down the rabbit hole I got fixated, it fueled me toward my choice. Especially when I had no support system at the time, no one to talk with about issues important to me. It didn't help me at the time but I'll be getting back into those waters again. I've had little interest of what's going on in the world since I survived my attempt. This time around I'll be working harder to make sure I have a greater support system. I'm too hot not to fight, and I don't throw fists unless it's for a good cause
Anyway, no... you did not whatsoever encourage me to end my life. Months before my attempt, I stumbled across your video and it gave me pause. Other videos I watched then did too, but yours stood out because it wasn't sanitized. You just were. At that time I couldn't imagine my family grieving me how I saw you grieve your brother, so it made me have second thoughts. I felt seen and comforted by you not just because of that video, but because of who you've shown yourself to be. I feel deeply and for others, too. I have a strong sense of justice similar to my father and for that I've had an interesting life, and I'm proud how I've stood up in life.
But yeah I feel like you already get me at my core where most do not. There's nothing (I remember) I've read/heard/seen from you that isn't cool with/to me. Same page shit. You're a cool person. Sorry for putting you on the spot and risking looking like a creep but tis true.
I'm glad you stuck around too 🌞
LOL the end of your message made me LOL 😹 It's all good, I am not creeped out; I hear you completely and I'm really glad my videos could provide comfort and illumination through a dark time. That's the power of authenticity. Even though vulnerability is deeply uncomfortable at times (and that can suck), it reminds me that I never know whose heart I am reaching, even when I'm ugly-face bawling my eyes out on camera lol. You are raising lots of points to consider as I delve into my piece on this subject in the near future! I appreciate you and thank you for sharing. 🌺
Look forward to hearing your thoughts on other matters. Thank you for all your hard work
Thank you 💜
My cat doesn't wanna go outside though! She loves it indoors!
Lol and thats purrfectly ok. 👌🏾
I have one indoor/outdoor cat who has a huge territory and hundreds of human (and probably feline) friends. I have two indoor cats who love to dart outdoors. The first cat has a special doorbell to ring when she wants to come indoors. The other two don’t know about the doorbell so I have to just leave the door open for them to get back in. I want to deprive these two cats of a huge territory and thankfully for now they just run under the house.
I'm sick to death of GI. Unfortunately, I have an adult child that got caught up in that cult of nonsense and I have to wait it out to see if she will come to her senses and come home to her family. I would LOVE to just shut the cover on this bad novel....right now!
I hear you! Many of us are impacted in different ways and it's very suffocating at times.
I’m tired of gender ideology existing. I hear and respect your tiredness of talking about it. I don’t think I will be done talking about it until it crumbles and all my friends realize they’ve been cheering on a devastatingly harmful movement that brutalizes children and destroys women’s rights.
I just bought your book on Kindle and am excited to read it!
Thank you! I hope you enjoy💜
Good! I am happy you got to this place because, yeah… I will keep the rest of that thought to myself, but it’s time. I would have loved for you to run your on space on Clubhouse - especially now that people are earning dough over there - but it would be a hostile environment for you over there. The Black Queers stay unified in large numbers. 🤣 Black Lesbians are staved on these apps for connection, voice, and representation. You know how the machines interfere with attempts to connect.
Wherever you go and share more parts of your genius, you’ll find people who have been waiting to consume it. It feels and is slow. But that’s not because people aren’t looking for it. The reach is intentionally blocked. Still folks are finding ya! It’s time.
Thank you so much 💜 I hear & feel you!! It is a slow burn. Yet I am grateful that you and so many others in my community have found me. I look forward to the next phase of my journey-adding new layers of richness to the pot🌺
Mazel tov! You got your book out and deserve to get to think about other things. Awesome book BTW.
Thanks so much 💜
I hope Oprah's researchers are keeping a list :)
Hahaha! I think they will find me when the time is right. Thank yew🌺
I hear you but also hope you don't abandon the 'gender ideology' topic. As a Black woman you have a unique perspective. And as a artist you have your unique talents and experience. One needs to hear more than JK Rowling, so that the debate is not just among privileged white folks. The LGB community needs to assert itself as such, absent extremes of 'wokeness'.
A Black woman said she is tired.
😹👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾💜