Dear Studs, It's Okay If You Don't Have a Feminine Side.

Masculine Black Lesbians Who Get High Femme Makeovers

Still from “Transformed” Youtube Show

Last night, I came across another one of those youtube shows where they give studs “Baddie Femme” makeovers.

It’s always the same premise: A masculine black lesbian gets professionally styled to look hyper-feminine, and surprises her friends and family with her new look.

Of course, these shows are merely episodes in a broader series that usually portrays unconventional people as freakshows. The entertainment value is found in turning a masculine woman with “beauty potential” into a conventionally attractive woman.

In the episode I watched, this absolutely gorgeous stud shared that she feels hurt when she gets misgendered. She said that people can tell she’s a woman, yet they still whisper about her looking like a man.

I totally understand that. Although I am feminine, I’m also a bit androgynous. A lot of people have misgendered me too, whether its genuinely questioning if I’m a boy, or assuming I go by “they”. It’s not a good feeling, particularly the latter.

In any case, she looked totally comfortable with her masculine presentation, and she even had a cute twin sister to match her vibe. I saw nothing worth changing or “experimenting” with. But alas, here we go.

As with literally every other makeover, they hid this woman’s beautiful, healthy natural afro hair and slapped a long, straight wig on her head to mimick a European woman’s hair. Then, they dressed her in a tight mini-dress with heels, and caked on a bunch of makeup.

And voila! You’re now cosplaying as someone who you are not.

Now at the end of it, she did look pretty, but that’s because she is beautiful, not because of the styling.

I definitely did not find her more attractive as a femme. Like every other stud who slaps on a dress, I thought she looked awkward, like a fish out of water. She was not fully embodied in those clothes, and it’s the embodiment that matters most to me. But clearly, my opinion was in the minority.

The comments section roared with mentions of how her new look “gave her a glow” and how she “went from cute to gorgeous”. It was like these people viewed her authentic self as the dumpy version of a before and after photo.

Those comments really pissed me off, because she clearly put so much thought and care into the curation of her masculine style. People were just unable to embrace her gender-nonconforming beauty because they were so accustomed to this factory-produced idea of womanhood.

But that’s when I realized that the those who find masculine-presenting women more attractive are usually going to be lesbian or bi women like me who are particularly attracted to this type of woman—as well as people who see through the fluff of Eurocentric beauty standards, and how odd black women look when we desperately try to conform to them.

Thankfully, this woman decided at the end to go back to her masculine style-but she expressed gratitude for the fact that she can explore her “feminine side”

I was thinking, Girl, it’s Okay if you don’t have a feminine side!

You don’t have to “do both”! You can just do you.

I’ve seen SO many people pressure masculine women into “exploring their feminine side” that it makes my head spin. The sad part is, a lot of that pressure comes from within the “queer” community. The queer fascists are so “pro-fluidity” that they think anyone who isn’t fluid is regressive.

If you’re a stud and you don’t have a secret feminine side in the bedroom, or you don’t like to paint your toenails on weekends, or you don’t wear stilettos for Pride—you’re considered out of touch.

Too rigid. Too one-note. Maybe even too MANLY. Or maybe you’re just trans!

Coupled with how much the “queers” equate masculinity with manhood, before you know it you’re seeing studs denouncing themselves as studs altogether. There’s no room for female masculinity.

Look. I’m not against women trying on a new look to explore themselves, or surprise friends and family as a joke. But this was not that.

This was a woman going on TV to show the whole world what she looks like in a dress and heels, after expressing hurt that people tell her she looks like a man. It felt to me, that she was trying to prove something.

I just wish she didn’t feel like she had to.

Leave studs alone! They’re beautiful as they are.

As for me, I’m attracted to masculine women who are consistent in their energy.

All this wishy-washy stuff is for the birds!