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Joanna ONeal's avatar

As a straight white woman, I feel like a bit of an interloper reading this article but here I am. This piece is so rich with background, history and context. And the curated list is very valuable. I find myself being drawn to black female artists; writers, comedians, thought-leaders and also seeing their stories authentically played out in film. And I provide support to them when it’s possible and makes sense.

I do have a question about your initial notes as you introduce and explain the piece. You state that the global black lesbian population is twice that of white lesbians. And I am curious where you find that statistic because it is fascinating.

Thank you 🙏

Courtney Elisabeth's avatar

Wow! This was so great! You have such a unique perspective on culture and it's really nice to read.

Aside from Pariah, I hadn't heard of any of these films and I'm excited to check them out. I think lesbians films with a white protagonist primarily focus on "this is who I love." Black lesbian films, at least the ones I've seen, are more about, "this is how I love," they depict the inner conflict and turmoil of being a lesbian so authentically. Which is nice to see because black lesbians navigate through the world with such swagger and confidence. Their movies really show what it took to get there.

The few I've seen written and directed by black lesbians are near the top of my list as favorites. And they're my favorites because they depict such universal experiences so authentically.

Pariah - The experience of conservative parents who feel they must keep up with appearances and put the burden of their family reputation on their lesbian daughter to remove herself from the picture. I mean, they were so much like my parents in that they didn't explicitly say I couldn't be a lesbian. They just didn't want me to acknowledge I was a lesbian around them.

The Watermelon Woman - I wonder how many young lesbians are so drawn to certain public figures and end up finding out they were lesbians. I watched it and was like, "wow, such a random thing to make a movie about, but I've been living with similar thoughts all my life!" I felt seen. I was obsessed with Doris Day for decades. I knew for sure I would learn about her life-long lesbian lover posthumously. Still holding out. Also, Cheryl's internal conflict about Diana was SO real! And I love that it didn't resolve in the end.

D.E.B.S. - Such a great film about the individuation that we face as young adults. The message is universal that we have to be true to ourselves not only about whom we love, but also what we do with our lives, and it's imperative we find a partner who wants that for us.

I've been thinking a lot lately about how Bad Bunny (and his Super Bowl halftime show) makes music that can't help but express the universal human experience and I really think it's something white people don't express as well because they're obsessed more with roles, status, achievement, and external validation.

Fun fact: my wife and I love to say if there was ever a movie about us, it's The Incredibly True Adventures of Two Girls in Love. Not only the race and butch and femme dynamic, but the wealth and intelligence dynamics too. My wife was her valedictorian at her private school and I grew up poor and barely graduated high school. I think being in a same-sex relationship offers some freedom in that. Like, "hey, I never would have thought to date someone from your side of the tracks, but I also never thought I'd date a woman. Yet, here were are." I'm getting deja vu like I've mentioned this before in another post.

Again, thanks so much for putting this list together.

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